Today I’m starting a lengthy series called Autism Diagnosis, Resources & Therapies.
Why so lengthy?
I’d like to walk parents through the process that my husband and I have been going through for the last 4 1/2 years…in an organized and condensed version, of course :).
My prayer for this series is to cut through the weeds that I had to go through to find things that really worked for us. Be aware: what works for our family may not work for yours for multiple reasons. This is simply a guide and an attempt to point you in a direction other than, “I don’t know what to do next.”
Okay, so your child has been diagnosed with autism…now what?
Well, the first step is to figure out how you feel.
Why do you have to figure out how you feel?
Because you have to tell everyone else.
You and your spouse, that is.
If your spouse is not with you at diagnosis, make sure you talk to them first. It is a crucial time for your marriage and you must cling to each other and be each other’s support. His family may not take it well. Your family may not take it well. And you’re in no place to comfort your in-laws or family of origin when you are fighting with your spouse.
Cry about it, hug each other, feel relief that you know what “it” is, try to get some laughter into the conversation, resolve to set some goals, make a “next step” list together, promise to not look at your child any differently than you lovingly did the day before, sit together quietly, spend some time reeling it through your minds, and get comfortable with the verbiage before you make one more phone call.
“Our child has autism.”